Recent statistics have shown that just over 50% of the bridal couples today go right to sleep after their wedding reception; their first night as a married couple. It is true that, no matter how fun, romantic and enjoyable they can be, weddings are exhausting. So, it is not surprising that most couples just do [...]

Recent statistics have shown that just over 50% of the bridal couples today go right to sleep after their wedding reception; their first night as a married couple. It is true that, no matter how fun, romantic and enjoyable they can be, weddings are exhausting. So, it is not surprising that most couples just do not have the stamina to make that first night one of all-night passion, as so many imagine.

However, if you (as the groom) want to make this first night one of passion and love-making, the following tips and guidelines should be useful:

1. Initiate your seduction early on in the wedding reception by whispering romantic sentiments or naughty ideas into your bride’s ear. This will build anticipation for both of you for your private after-party, and will remind you to resist that sixth glass of champagne (which could hamper both of your performances). It is important to remember that this is an event that she has likely been dreaming of for years, so keep the whisperings tasteful and subtle, not hounding her with schoolboy fantasies.
2. Tell your new wife how beautiful she looked earlier in the evening (once you are alone after the celebrations) and how happy you are to share your life with her. She will probably reciprocate the sentiment. This type of ‘pillow talk’ should tempt even the most exhausted bride to reward her groom. Once you have sincerely shared these thoughts with her, subtly change your tone into one of being more sexually oriented. For example, describe your thoughts as you were removing her garter.
3. Rest a little before getting too adventurous. Once you get to your hotel room, or wherever you are spending the first night, have a full glass of water before pouring yourselves a glass of wine or a mug of hot coffee. Sit together on the couch or bed, enjoy a light snack if you did not have a chance to eat much at the wedding, and chat about the fun of the celebration. This helps you both to relax and restore your energy levels while enjoying some intimate conversation.
4. Do not expect the most passionate, longest-lasting sexual experience. Creating such high expectations may just end in disappointment.
5. Make the extra effort to ensure that this is a special night by planning ahead. Arrange music to set the mood, get a wine that she likes, have petals or scented candles in the room, and so on.
6. If you are aware of a fantasy of hers that you have not yet tried or fulfilled (such as seeing you in your fireman’s uniform, for example), use this night to play it out. Or, if you are a bit nervous about this time, introduce an element of humour to relax both of you while still keeping with the mood. Wear a feathered thong or dress up like a schoolboy to put a smile on her face.
7. Well ahead of time, do your research. Read books and websites to get inspiration for this special night. These may include props and exciting new positions, but they should not be too daring. Your new wife may not feel comfortable with the thought of trying such adventurous things on this special occasion, and you may be disappointed if a certain position does not produce the effect you expected from so much effort. So, keep it new and fresh, but always focus on the love and intimacy you share. Above all, do not make her feel like she is part of making her sex video.
8. Build anticipation and desire by not having sex with each another for the month leading up to the wedding. This increases desire and anticipation.

If you (as an individual or a couple) have decided to remain a virgin until this special night, do not become too stressed about making it a spectacular performance. Read some books on having great sex and remember what they say about it without trying to memorise the techniques word for word. Ask good and trusted friends for their advice but always remember to relax and to make it about celebrating your love together.

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